Jesus – Anguish (Matthew 26) Jeff McGuinness · Real Prayers for Real Life 9 August 2026 https://media.glenabbey.church/talks/jesus-anguish-matthew-26 [0:01] Good morning. [0:05] Just want to thank Al and the band for bringing us into the Garden of Gethsemane this morning. [0:10] This is part of our series on Real Prayer for Real Life. [0:14] And as we have been journeying through that series, we have been looking at prayers that meet us in the middle of ordinary everyday life. [0:22] Prayers dealing with desperation, confession, waiting, worship, forgiveness. [0:29] I'm very conscious that today's prayer may be one of the most searching of them all. [0:34] It's the prayer that Jesus prays in the Garden of Gethsemane which culminates in Jesus praying, Yet not my will, but yours be done. [0:43] For many of us, those words can be some of the hardest words we will ever pray. [0:49] We'll work systematically through the passage in a few moments, but before we do, I think it's important to acknowledge that as we come to this, Those words don't land the same way for everyone. [1:01] For some of us, they are beautiful words of trust. [1:04] But for others, they come wrapped in memories. [1:09] They remind us of hospital rooms, funerals, unanswered prayers, relationships that didn't heal, children who walked away from Jesus, medical diagnoses, rejection, dreams that never came to pass. [1:27] or burdens that we have been carrying for years. [1:31] Many people have sincerely prayed, Lord, not my will but yours, and then walked through circumstances they would never have chosen for themselves. [1:42] So if that's part of your story, and it's certainly part of mine, I want us to acknowledge the challenge of that this morning. [1:50] For those of us who have prayed, not my will but yours, and have felt the cost of surrender, Today's passage will speak with particular resonance. [1:59] That experience is real, and Gethsemane does speak into it. [2:05] But I want to gently suggest that we must be careful not to narrow what is being taught here simply to our own experience. [2:16] Gethsemane is first given to us as a revelation of Christ before it is ever an example for us. [2:24] This is not just a demonstration of somebody wrestling with God's will in difficult circumstances, and therefore you can go and do the same. [2:32] This is the Son of God willingly submitting Himself to the Father's plan of redemption. [2:39] So this morning, before we rush to ask, what does this teach me about praying through my struggles? [2:45] I want us to pause for a moment. [2:49] Because that's often our instinct, isn't it? [2:51] We read about Gethsemane and we immediately begin thinking about our own Gethsemane. [2:57] We think about the difficult decisions we face, the painful circumstances we carry, the prayers we have prayed through tears. [3:05] And we ask, how do I pray not my will but yours be done? [3:10] And there is certainly a time to ask that question, and we will ask that question. [3:15] But before this passage teaches us what to pray, it shows us who to trust. [3:21] Before it becomes a model for our circumstances, it is a window into Christ's. [3:26] Before it speaks about our obedience, it reveals His. [3:31] So this morning let me gently suggest to you that you are not here primarily to learn how to pray this prayer. [3:38] You are here to see and experience the Saviour who prayed this prayer for you. [3:45] The spotlight in Gethsemane does not fall on our struggles, our questions, or our surrender. [3:52] It falls on Jesus. [3:55] So I want to show you Jesus this morning. [3:57] And by looking at him, perhaps we can learn more about how this prayer intersects with our lives. [4:03] Gethsemane invites us to stand quietly beside the Son of God on the hardest night of his earthly life and listen to the hardest prayer he ever prayed. [4:15] And as we listen, we discover that the one who calls us to trust God in our suffering is the one who first trusted his Father in suffering for us. [4:25] Gethsemane shows us that when we stand in places we never wanted to be, we are not following a Saviour who is distant from our pain. [4:33] We are following the one who has already walked into the darkness before us, who understands our weakness and who has secured our hope. [4:42] So let's listen to Matthew's account. [4:44] We're going to read from Matthew chapter 26, verses 36 to 46. [4:48] So if you have a Bible with you, please do open it to that chapter and read along. [4:53] It will be on the screen behind me. [4:55] And just while you're finding it in your Bibles, as we often emphasise here in Glenabbey, context is key. [5:00] Before we think about what a passage means for us, we need to understand what it meant in its original setting. [5:06] What does Matthew want his reader to see? [5:10] Here, in this bit, we find ourselves at the end of Passover week. [5:14] Jesus has come to Jerusalem for the final time. [5:17] Throughout the week he has taught in the city and he's likely spent his nights in Bethany, just outside the city at the home of Lazarus, Mary and Martha. [5:25] He has shared the Passover meal with his disciples. [5:28] Judas has left to betray him. [5:30] And now Jesus leaves the city and takes the remaining disciples across the Kidron Valley. [5:35] So bearing all that in mind, we're going to pick up a story in verse 36. [5:42] This is the word of God. [5:46] Then Jesus went with his disciples to a place called Gethsemane, and he said to them, Sit here while I go over there and pray. [5:53] He took Peter and the two sons of Zebedee along with him, and he began to be sorrowful and troubled. [5:59] Then he said to them, My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. [6:03] Stay here and keep watch with me.' [6:06] Going a little farther, he fell his face to the ground and prayed, 'My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. [6:14] Yet not as I will, but as you will.' [6:18] Then he returned to his disciples and found them sleeping. [6:21] 'Couldn't you men keep watch with me for one hour?' [6:23] he asked Peter. [6:24] 'Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. [6:28] The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.' [6:32] He went away a second time and prayed, My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done. [6:41] When he came back, he again found them sleeping because their eyes were heavy. [6:46] So he left them and went away once more and prayed the third time, saying the same thing. [6:51] Then he returned to the disciples and said to them, Are you still sleeping and resting? [6:55] Look, The hour has come and the Son of Man is delivered into the hands of sinners. [7:00] Rise, let us go. [7:02] Here comes my betrayer. [7:05] Amen. [7:10] Let's walk through the passage and see what God's Word has to teach us this morning. [7:16] Matthew begins, Then Jesus went with his disciples to a place called Gethsemane. [7:22] The first word is easy to skip over. [7:25] then. [7:26] Matthew is deliberately connecting Gethsemane to everything that has gone before. [7:31] This is not an isolated incident. [7:32] It is the next step in a journey that has been unfolding throughout Jesus' entire ministry and indeed throughout God's plan of salvation. [7:41] From the very beginning of Matthew's gospel, there has been a shadow over Jesus' life. [7:46] Again and again he has spoken about his coming death. [7:49] Again and again he has told his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem, suffer many things, be killed and on the third day be raised to life. [7:58] Every miracle, every sermon, every confrontation with the religious leaders, every step on the road to Jerusalem has been moving towards this moment. [8:07] And now this moment has arrived. [8:11] Notice how simply Matthew describes it. [8:14] Then Jesus went with his disciples to a place called Gethsemane. [8:18] There is a quiet determination in those words. [8:22] Jesus is not caught off guard by the events about to unfold. [8:26] He knows Judas will betray him. [8:28] He knows Peter will deny him. [8:30] He knows arrest, trial and crucifixion lie only hours ahead. [8:35] Yet he still goes to Gethsemane. [8:38] That matters. [8:40] That matters because before we hear a single word of Jesus' prayer, Matthew has already shown us something vital. [8:47] Jesus is not a helpless victim being swept along by events beyond his control. [8:52] He is the obedient son walking willingly towards the moment for which he came. [8:58] He doesn't run from Gethsemane. [9:00] He walks towards it. [9:02] His feet have already been walking the path of obedience long before his lips express the cost of that obedience. [9:10] And that is what makes Gethsemane such holy ground. [9:14] Here we are given a glimpse into something that the crowds never saw, the religious leaders never understood, and something even the disciples struggled to grasp. [9:24] We are invited to watch the perfectly obedient Son face the full cost of the Father's will and embrace it. [9:32] Matthew continues, Jesus says, sit here while I go over there and pray. [9:38] Immediately, the circle begins to narrow. [9:41] He has brought the remaining 11 disciples with him and now eight are left behind. [9:47] Jesus separates himself from the larger group and moves deeper into the darkness of the garden. [9:53] Verse 37 tells us he took Peter and the two sons of Zebedee along with him. [9:58] Peter, James and John are invited to come further. [10:03] This is an inner circle within the 12. [10:06] Again and again, these three have been given a unique glimpse into the person and the work of Jesus. [10:12] They were there when Jairus' daughter was raised from the dead. [10:16] They were there on the Mount of Transfiguration when Christ's divine glory burst through the veil of his humanity. [10:22] They heard the Father's voice from heaven, This is my Son, whom I love. [10:28] With him I am well pleased. [10:31] They have seen Jesus at his most majestic. [10:35] And now they will see him at his most vulnerable. [10:40] The one whose face shone like the sun on the mountain will soon fall with his face to the ground in the garden. [10:47] The one clothed in heavenly glory will be clothed with sorrow. [10:51] The one who was revealed in splendour will be revealed in suffering. [10:57] Matthew is helping us to see all of Christ. [11:00] The King of Glory is the Man of Sorrows. [11:03] The Eternal Son of God is also Isaiah's suffering servant. [11:07] And it is vital that we hold both of those truths together. [11:10] If we see only His glory, Gethsemane will shock us. [11:14] If we see only His suffering, we will miss who it is that suffers. [11:19] The one kneeling in the garden is none other than the Lord of Glory Himself. [11:24] And then comes a remarkable description. [11:27] He began to be sorrowful and troubled. [11:30] Those are unusual words to describe Jesus. [11:33] Matthew is slowing us down here. [11:35] He wants us to feel the weight of this moment. [11:39] Jesus himself gives voice to what is happening. [11:41] My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. [11:46] We have read those words lightly many times before, but those words should stop us. [11:53] The one who spoke and storms became calm, the one who called Lazarus out of the grave, the one who stood fearlessly before the Pharisees, the one who never once wavered during three years of public ministry is now overwhelmed. [12:08] Why? [12:10] Well, it cannot be the fear of physical suffering alone. [12:14] History is full of men and women who have faced death with remarkable courage. [12:19] Many of the Christian martyrs went to their deaths singing praise. [12:24] So why is Jesus overwhelmed and in such agony? [12:27] Well, the answer is that Jesus is facing something that no martyr has ever faced. [12:32] And this is why we have to be careful with this prayer. [12:36] He is not simply anticipating physical pain. [12:38] He is anticipating becoming the sin bearer. [12:42] He knows that the cross is not merely a Roman execution. [12:46] It is the place where He will bear the judgment of God against human sin. [12:51] And that is why Gethsemane is unique. [12:54] The horror is not simply what people will do to Jesus. [12:58] The horror is what Jesus is about to endure for people. [13:03] Notice what he asks of Peter, James and John, Stay here and keep watch with me. [13:08] Then Matthew says, Going a little farther, and there it is again, the circle narrows. [13:16] The disciples can only come so far. [13:18] Peter, James and John can only come so far. [13:22] Eventually, Jesus walks on alone. [13:24] Now there's certainly a reminder here to us that everyone must come personally before the Father. [13:31] No one else can trust God for you. [13:33] No one else can surrender your heart for you. [13:36] But that is not Matthew's main point. [13:39] Matthew is showing us something far greater. [13:44] Jesus is now walking a road that only Jesus can walk. [13:49] No disciple can bear the sin of the world. [13:51] No disciple can drink the cup that awaits. [13:53] No disciple can accomplish redemption. [13:56] The physical separation in the garden anticipates the uniqueness of the cross. [14:02] Jesus goes where no one else can follow because he is about to do what no one else can do. [14:07] Then Matthew says he fell with his face to the ground and prayed. [14:12] This is complete dependence. [14:14] complete submission. [14:16] And notice how his prayer begins. [14:18] My Father. [14:21] Before Jesus speaks about the cup, before he speaks about suffering, before he speaks about his own desire, he speaks to his Father. [14:31] Even in the deepest anguish of his earthly life, Jesus never loses sight of the relationship that he enjoys. [14:39] And then come the words that have echoed throughout history. [14:42] If it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. [14:48] Let's be clear here about what Jesus asked and what he doesn't ask. [14:52] Jesus doesn't ask whether he must obey. [14:55] He asked whether redemption can be a accomplished in any other way. [15:00] This is not unbelief. [15:02] This is not disobedience. [15:04] This is the genuine cry of the incarnate Son. [15:07] His humanity recoils from what lies ahead. [15:11] Death is unnatural. [15:13] Judgment is terrifying. [15:15] And Jesus honestly expresses His deepest desire to His Father. [15:20] There is something wonderfully liberating about this. [15:24] Jesus does not pretend. [15:25] He does not hide His anguish. [15:27] He does not feel the need to sound composed. [15:31] He tells His Father exactly what is in His heart. [15:36] That is what real prayer looks like. [15:39] Not polished words, honest dependence. [15:43] And what is the cup that Jesus speaks of? [15:45] Well, it's not simply suffering. [15:47] Throughout the Old Testament, the cup is the symbol of God's righteous judgment against sin. [15:52] Psalms 75 speaks of the Lord holding a cup from which the wicked must drink. [15:57] Isaiah and Jeremiah speak of the cup of God's wrath, His righteous anger, His judgment. [16:02] So when Jesus speaks about the cup, He is looking beyond the nails, beyond the crown of thorns, beyond the mocking crowds. [16:10] He is looking towards the moment when the sinless Son will bear the judgment deserved by sinners. [16:16] Jesus is preparing to drink the cup. [16:20] that belongs to us. [16:24] And then comes the sentence that defines obedience. [16:28] Yet not as I will, but as you will. [16:32] Luke records it as not my will, but yours be done. [16:37] Do you hear the echo? [16:39] Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your will be done. [16:46] The one who taught his disciples to pray those words now prays them himself. [16:52] This is the eternal Son willingly submitting himself to the Father's plan to redeem the world. [16:58] Before these words become the prayer that we learn to pray, they are the prayer through which our salvation is secured. [17:05] And that changes everything. [17:08] Because Jesus prayed, Not my will but yours be done. [17:11] The way to the cross lay open. [17:13] Through what would follow, our sins would be forgiven. [17:15] We would be reconciled to God. [17:17] We would be adopted as God's children. [17:19] We would stand accepted before the Father. [17:21] We would have a living hope. [17:23] But we're getting ahead of ourselves. [17:27] Now the garden is still dark. [17:29] Judas has not yet arrived. [17:31] The cross still lies ahead. [17:33] Matthew doesn't rush us to Easter. [17:35] At this point, Jesus rises from the ground and Matthew writes, then he returned to his disciples and found them sleeping. [17:42] The contrast couldn't be more striking. [17:44] Jesus is awake, praying and wrestling. [17:48] The disciples are napping. [17:49] The faithful son, the failing disciples. [17:52] Matthew isn't simply recording in historical detail. [17:55] He is holding up two very different responses to the approaching trial. [18:02] Jesus is alert. [18:04] The disciples are asleep. [18:07] Jesus has been preparing his heart. [18:09] The disciples have been resting their heads. [18:11] And notice that Jesus addresses Peter, the one who only a few hours earlier had confidently declared, Even if I have to die with you, I will never disown you. [18:22] Now he cannot stay awake for an hour. [18:26] It's not so often the human condition. [18:29] We overestimate our own strength and we underestimate our need for God. [18:34] Peter genuinely loved Jesus. [18:37] His spirit was willing, but his flesh was weak. [18:40] And Jesus acknowledges that. [18:41] He says, Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. [18:45] The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. [18:47] And I don't think those words are spoken in frustration. [18:51] I think they're spoken with compassion. [18:54] Jesus understands human weakness better than we do. [18:57] He knows what is coming. [18:59] He knows Peter's denial is only hours away. [19:01] He knows every one of these disciples will flee. [19:04] And he still speaks with gentleness. [19:07] Then Matthew tells us something significant. [19:10] He went away in verse 42. [19:11] He went away a second time and prayed. [19:15] Listen carefully to how that prayer changes. [19:18] The first time Jesus prayed, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. [19:23] Now he prays, My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done. [19:31] Do you hear the difference? [19:33] The first prayer asks whether there is another way. [19:36] The second prayer accepts that there isn't. [19:38] Something has happened, not because the Father's will has changed. [19:42] The Father's will has always been the same. [19:45] What has changed is that the Son has fully embraced what lies before Him. [19:49] And Luke helps us here. [19:51] In Luke's gospel, he tells us that an angel appeared from heaven and strengthened him. [19:57] And that detail is deeply significant. [19:59] The father answers the son's prayer, but not by removing the cup. [20:04] He gives strength to drink it. [20:06] It's not often how God works in our lives. [20:09] So often we pray, Lord, take this away. [20:13] And sometimes he does. [20:15] But sometimes his answer is different. [20:17] Sometimes he gives us the grace to walk the road rather than removing the road itself. [20:23] The apostle Paul discovered the same thing. [20:25] Three times he pleaded for the thorn in his flesh to be removed. [20:29] And God's answer was, my grace is sufficient for you. [20:34] Not always escape. [20:36] Always sufficient grace. [20:39] The father strengthened his son for obedience rather than sparing him from it. [20:43] And that doesn't mean that every trial that we face is identical to Gethsemane. [20:47] It isn't. [20:48] Jesus is doing something utterly unique. [20:50] We are never asked to bear the weight He bore. [20:53] But we do discover something about the Father's character in that that can apply to us. [21:00] God is not absent in suffering. [21:02] He strengthens His children in suffering. [21:05] That tells us something profound about God's love. [21:08] The absence of escape from our trials is not the absence of care. [21:14] Not always a way out, always a way through. [21:19] Matthew continues, verse 43. [21:22] When he came back, he again found them sleeping because their eyes were heavy. [21:26] Again, the contrast. [21:28] The disciples grow weaker. [21:29] Jesus grows stronger. [21:31] Not because the burden is lighter, but because prayer has accomplished what the Father intended. [21:36] Prayer has strengthened his son for obedience. [21:39] Then Matthew tells us, so he left him and went away once more and prayed the third time, saying the same thing. [21:46] Notice what Jesus doesn't do. [21:48] He doesn't stop praying because the answer isn't changing. [21:52] He continues bringing His heart before His Father. [21:55] Persistence is not necessarily trying to persuade God to change His mind. [21:59] Persistence is allowing our hearts to be shaped by His will. [22:05] And then everything changes. [22:08] Verse 45. [22:09] Then He returned to the disciples and said to them, Are you still sleeping and resting? [22:13] Look, the hour has come. [22:16] Those words, the hour has come, echo all the way through the Gospels. [22:21] For years Jesus has spoken about his hour, not yet having come. [22:25] Now it has arrived. [22:27] The betrayer is approaching. [22:29] The soldiers are coming. [22:30] The cross is only hours away. [22:33] And then comes one of what I believe is the most courageous sentences in the Bible. [22:38] Rise, let us go. [22:41] Here comes my betrayer. [22:44] There is no hesitation. [22:46] no attempt to escape, no last minute change of mind. [22:50] Jesus doesn't wait for Judas to find Him. [22:52] He walks towards Him, towards betrayal, towards abandonment, towards false accusation, towards mocking, towards darkness, towards the cross. [23:05] Not because He is trapped, but because He is obedient. [23:09] Not because events have overtaken Him, but because love has compelled Him. [23:13] Matthew wants us to see this. [23:15] I hope you see this. [23:17] Jesus didn't simply pray those words, he lived them. [23:21] Every step he now takes towards Judas, every step towards Pilate, every step towards Golgotha is another step of perfect obedience to the Father's will. [23:32] Yet not my will but yours. [23:35] Everything that follows, the arrest, the trial, the cross, the empty tomb, flows from this moment of willing obedience. [23:43] The hardest prayer ever prayed led to the greatest news ever proclaimed. [23:50] So if this is a prayer first about Christ and not about us, why is it in a series called Real Prayer for Real Life? [23:59] Because it does two things. [24:00] First, it points to the Saviour. [24:03] In this prayer we see the willing obedience of the Son, embracing the Father's plan of redemption. [24:09] This prayer leads Jesus to the cross and the cross leads to our salvation. [24:14] Because Jesus prayed what He did, you can be what you are, forgiven, adopted, loved by God. [24:22] Real prayer for real life. [24:25] And second, then, it shapes our prayers. [24:27] The Jesus who saves us is also the Jesus who shapes us. [24:31] We have spent much of this morning seeing that the prayer of Gethsemane is first and foremost a revelation of Christ. [24:38] It shows us something unique about the Son of God and the work that He came to accomplish. [24:43] And with that foundation built, we can look at this prayer and ask how, in the light of all of that, it might shape and instruct our own prayers. [24:52] We cannot pray it in exactly the same way that Jesus prayed it. [24:56] We will never drink the cup that He drank. [24:59] But we must not leave this prayer in Gethsemane. [25:02] The reality is that we do pray those words and we should pray those words. [25:07] So what does it look like for us to pray those words? [25:11] Well, it doesn't mean pretending we are happy when we are hurting. [25:15] It doesn't mean suppressing our desires or acting as though our disappointments do not matter. [25:21] I hope you see that Gethsemane teaches us the very opposite. [25:24] Jesus tells His Father exactly what's in His heart. [25:28] He honestly expresses his desire. [25:30] He brings his anguish into the Father's presence, and then he entrusts himself to the Father's will. [25:37] And that means that we can pray, Lord, I don't want this diagnosis. [25:44] I don't want this loss. [25:46] I want this relationship restored. [25:48] I want this burden lifted. [25:52] Real surrender is not pretending we have no preferences. [25:55] Real surrender is bringing them honestly before our Father and then trusting Him with the outcome. [26:02] And as we finish, let's come back to where we first began. [26:05] For many of us, yet not my will but yours be done may be one of the hardest prayers you will ever pray. [26:12] Some of you have already prayed this through tears. [26:15] Others may yet have to. [26:17] And when that day comes, and it will, I hope that you will remember Gethsemane. [26:23] Not because it teaches you what to pray, but because it shows you who your Saviour is. [26:29] When you find yourself standing in a place you never wanted to be, remember this. [26:34] Jesus has already stood there first. [26:37] When your heart is breaking, remember this. [26:40] Jesus knows what it is to be overwhelmed with sorrow. [26:43] When God's will is difficult to understand, remember this. [26:48] Jesus trusted His Father before you were ever asked to trust yours. [26:53] And when you wonder whether God really loves you, don't look first at your circumstances. [26:58] Look at Gethsemane, look at the cross, because in that garden and on that cross the Father did not spare His own Son so that through His Son He could spare you. [27:09] Because Jesus prayed, not my will but yours be done. [27:13] You never need to wonder if God loves you. [27:16] never need to bear the crushing weight of your sin. [27:19] You never need to carry your burdens alone. [27:22] You never need to face suffering without a Saviour who understands. [27:26] You never need to fear that God has abandoned you. [27:29] You never need to drink the cup that your sins deserved. [27:32] You never need to earn the Father's acceptance. [27:35] You never need to walk through the darkest valley by yourself. [27:38] You never need to ask whether suffering will give way to glory. [27:42] It will. [27:44] You never need to wonder how your story ends because the Jesus who went to Gethsemane is the Jesus who goes to Calvary and is the Jesus who will take your hand and bring you home. [27:58] Because Jesus prayed, not my will but yours be done. [28:01] You are welcomed forever into the Father's family. [28:04] And you can know that one day every prayer of faith, every act of costly obedience, every tear shed in trust will finally, finally give way to joy in His presence. [28:17] So let's not leave Gethsemane wondering whether we could ever pray like Jesus. [28:23] Leave marveling that Jesus prayed like this for you. [28:29] He entered the darkness willingly. [28:32] He drank the cup completely. [28:34] He bore our sin fully. [28:37] He obeyed the Father perfectly. [28:40] And he did it because he loved you. [28:44] And so the hardest prayer ever prayed leads to the greatest news ever proclaimed. [28:50] And that, is real prayer for real life. [28:55] Let's pray. [29:01] Father, we thank You for Your Word. [29:03] We thank You that it leads us to Your Son. [29:06] We pray that we would leave Gethsemane with our eyes fixed on Christ. [29:12] May what we have seen today deepen our love for Jesus, increase our confidence in Him and strengthen our worship of Him. [29:22] As we continue to follow Him in the ordinary and the everyday moments of our lives, teach us by Your Spirit to trust You more each day. [29:31] until faith becomes sight and we stand in your presence and we pray in all things may your will be done we ask this in Jesus name and all God's people said amen